What is Monotony in a Relationship?

Relationships can hit the boredom plateau wherein everything seems so familiar and routine. And you start to feel that you’re stuck in it for the rest of your life.

This is what we refer to as “monotony” which also means dullness, boredom and routine. It is the exact opposite of excitement.

Based on research, monotony can start as early as 6 to 8 months in a relationship with others starting at around 2 to 3 years.

Lack of quality time with each other and failure to try something new together can all contribute to a monotonous relationship.

There are many factors that can be attributed to monotony in a relationship such as busy schedule, lack of intimacy, failure to try something new and lack of social life outside the relationship.

Other reasons include; lack of appreciation for each other, not attempting to look good for your partner and lack of topics to talk about.

Tips on How to Break the Monotony in a Relationship

What most couples fail to realize is that monotony in a relationship can be avoided. The cycle can be broken. All it takes is cooperation and a great deal of commitment from both parties. 

And just like any other relationship issue, it takes a certain amount of effort to transform things and to bring back the excitement.

Here are some tips on how to break the monotony in a relationship;

Try out something new with your partner. Travel together and get into new adventures to avoid monotony in your relationship.

Complement each other

When was the last time you complemented your partner? Make it a point to appreciate how your partner looks to make him/her feel better. Nothing is more uplifting than being appreciated by someone whom you’re sharing your life with.

Also, complement your partner even for the most random things like how much you like it when you hug and kiss, that he looks sexy while cooking in the kitchen, that he smells good or that you find her sexy when her hair is tied up in a bun.

A small complement is enough to make a person feel good and appreciated.

Plan date nights

Your date nights could happen anytime and anywhere. It could be a simple candlelit dinner at home or in a romantic place. Or it can also be a quiet walk at the park – anything that can break the routine.

Date nights could also be movie dates, going to a newly-opened dining spot to try out something different, visiting art galleries and dressing up for a special night together. Think of something fun and discuss this with your partner.

Allow each other to enjoy different company. Maintain a social life outside of your relationship to learn things from other people and to have something to talk about later on.

Go out separately and make new friends

Boundaries are important in a relationship. As much as it’s important for you and your partner to spend an intimate time together, it is just as essential for both of you to go out with different company.

This contributes to a healthy social life and will allow both of you to trust each other, to learn from other people and to make new experiences which you can talk about later on.

The idea is to create a lifestyle that will allow you to develop a strong bond even as you spend time with other people.

Spend less time on your phone/social media and start living in the moment

Spend quality time with your partner by doing different activities together. It’s not enough to just be together doing separate things. You have to engage in activities that would allow you to enjoy each other’s company.

Some things you can try are; hiking or trekking, camping, work out sessions, picnics, movie marathons, concerts, visit local specialty stores, out-of-town trips, going to the beach and watching sunsets among many others.

Spending more time together can help you overcome any sexual problems you might have.

Encourage each other to learn new things

Don’t limit your potential. If there’s something that you want to learn like baking, cosmetology or painting, feel free to pursue them.

Encourage your partner to do the same. By doing so, you can cultivate your individual interests and have something to be excited about.

Fulfilling your personal goals in life can lead to a happier and more satisfying relationship. And while in the process, support and share your learning with each other.